This month’s Me and Mine is extra special.  Or at least I really really hope it is.  With a bit of luck and a following wind (and probably some acupuncture and encouraging thoughts towards the Little Bump) this should be our last Me and Mine as a family of four.  And I can’t believe I just wrote that.  Apart from the whole fact that this means this baby’s arrival really is happening quite soon, I’ve almost certainly just consigned myself to going all the way to my induction date and an early September arrival!

Of more certainty is that this is the last Me and Mine in which we don’t own garden furniture that did not come from a hockey tour.  It’s probably a sign of advancing middle age but I’m claiming pregnancy and the fact that it feels like it takes ten minutes to get up off the ground at the moment as the impetus that took us to Homebase on a Sunday afternoon to order a nice comfy garden chair – and a table and the rest of the chairs that go with it.  It arrives this week and I can’t wait; I’m having lovely visions of sitting outside with our tiny new baby while the girls run up and down the garden for the rest of the summer, even if the reality is that we sit and watch the rain plopping down onto the table half the time! (That would be this weekend’s forecast then).

Because it is that last Me and Mine, I really wanted to do something special, to think of somewhere stunning for a backdrop, magically coax all of the family into the most perfect of picture-taking moods, and somehow become a completely genius photographer overnight, not to mention be able to split myself in two so that I can both take the photos and be in them.  And my mind went blank; well about the achievable bits anyway, it just got realistic about the rest.

But at the end of the day what really matters is not so much how the photo looks, but that I took it, and preferably without everyone’s memories of the occasion being something along the lines of “oh yes, that was the day Mummy made us go out and have our picture taken and it was really annoying because we just wanted to turn the house upside down and sit on Daddy’s head instead”.  So we went back to basics.

At the end of the day I think that most of us that join in with the Me and Mine project do so not because we never ever ever took pictures of our family as a whole, but because we realised that we’d got the high days and holidays covered but not the in between.  The missing links of those months between Christmas and Easter, or Easter and birthdays.  And so what I’m trying to capture isn’t, and shouldn’t really be some highly polished scrubbed cheek version of us, but the everyday reality of what our life is like.  Or perhaps a version that’s had a quick once over with a baby wipe; no one really wants to look back on the diary of their early childhood to discover just how many times in one day the phrase “stop right there – we use gentle hands in this family!” could be heard.

So for our probably hopefully last Me and Mine as a quartet, it’s just us, in the back garden, on a gorgeously sunny evening, eating BBQ supper (thank you lovely husband).  All the detritus is there, the drinks, the ketchup, the smears of sauce across tiny cheeks and everyone’s fingers, and we’re all still camped out on the picnic blankets (which is more comfortable for some of us than others!)

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

 

I remember the little things; the certainty that in just about every photo at least one of us would have a mouthful of food

. Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

The squeals of delight that we got from Elma when we told her to say “Daddy” rather than ‘cheese”

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

The bliss that comes in feeling that the day is finally starting to cool down; not too much but just enough to make sitting still bearable, combined with a supper that did not involve adding any additional source of heat to our kitchen.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

And above all, the happiness in simply being in that moment together, at the end of a day that had held more than its fair share of exhausted parents and fractiously hyperactive children.  And being able to step back to the knowledge that a day is made up of many many moments; some will be good, some will be not so great, and some will just be; and that’s OK; and that this was a good one.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

My little family; in July.

Space for the Butterflies - an eclectic handmade family life

dear beautiful

 

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27 Responses to Me and Mine – a family portrait for July

  1. Lovely photos and very true words. We had only about 2 photos of us all before we started me and mine and I am so thankful for the 7 we now have of us all together.

    • Carie Carie says:

      Thank you – we completed our year a couple of months ago and even though they’re not all the best photos I love that I have them!

  2. Emma Kershaw says:

    Lovely photos! How exciting to think that next months photo you will be a family of 5, good luck with everything :) #Meandmine

  3. LauraCYMFT says:

    These are lovely photos. You all look like you are having a great time.

  4. Jenny says:

    I am so excited that next month your photo will be blessed with another baby, another family member. So happy for you all. You have the cutest little family here and I love your photos each month of you all! You are always having so much fun together. That’s what it’s all about. #me&mine

    • Carie Carie says:

      Well I’m making no promises – if the baby really keeps us waiting I’ll have to take a family of four back up photo!

  5. Katie says:

    Oh gosh Carie! I can’t believe it’s true!
    Amazing photos :) I for one am incredibly excited to see next months xxx

  6. Louise says:

    Beautiful photos – so relaxed and happy. I love that Me and Mine is about capturing the ordinary family moments as well as the special ones. How exciting that your next Me and Mine should hopefully be as a quintet. Hope all goes well with your little one’s arrival :-)

  7. Great family picnic photos! Love that idea. Bump is looking ready to go… eek! How exciting.

    Fingers crossed that it all goes to plan and looking forward to next months family of five me and mine! x

  8. Ben says:

    Lovely sentiment, we’re going to become a family of 5 in October (that’s the theory anyway) so have also been taking these photos while thinking of that in the back of my mind.
    Fingers crossed all goes well for you.

  9. Just perfect Carie, I couldn’t agree more- it’s a lovely sentiment indeed to have as your last me and mine photo as a four. I can’t believe next month there will be a little person joining you- can’t wait to see that photo. x

    • Carie Carie says:

      I think right now I’m just really really hopeing that we are a family of five by the end of August – but it’s true that I’m looking forward to that first photo!

  10. Donna says:

    Such lovely photos capturing your last month as a four. You are looking so lovely and ‘bumpy’! Huge bump envy :) x

  11. Lauren says:

    Aw, I love it. That’s the childhood moment you want to remember anyway. When we’re old, we don’t want to flip through our album (or blog archives) and think “my life was perfectly curated and styled” we want to think “even ordinary moments in our garden were special”

    Also, I hope this last month goes well. If you want a baby to arrive early, get food poisoning. Worked with Alex! (Although I don’t recommend it)

  12. sally says:

    Lovely photos, and I think they were really special for your last as a family of 4, good choice. I do occasionally try and get just the 4 children to ‘pose’ for a group photo, which in reality just means that they sit/stand close enough together to get them all in. And when I do, I usually manage to get one goodish photo, but only after quite a bit of nagging one or other of them not to be silly. I so much prefer the natural photos.

    • Carie Carie says:

      I like candid photos – I think they might just be far more my photography style although I really must try to get someone to take some professional photos of us at some point because I think I’d like to have those too!

  13. I love these so much Carie, not least because they (fingers crossed) mark the end of an era, but also in their beautiful, everyday, happy simplicity. I agree with every word, capturing the every days as a family is so important, and something I’m so glad I’m doing. x

    • Carie Carie says:

      Thank you – and definitely fingers crossed; I’m starting to feel very ready to meet this little one!

  14. Camille says:

    Beautiful shots! I can’t wait to see the new little one. :)